The loss of a family member can be absolutely devastating, especially if it is a surprise death. It can leave you feeling all kinds of ways, and you may have a hard time trying to figure out and get past that grief. You can feel like you are just mired in a bog and that you can't do anything at all. There are ways that you can deal with that grief and all the effects of that grief. One way is to find grief support services that can help you handle all the feelings that are overwhelming you. You can find these services in several places. 

Church

Your church may offer grief counseling. Depending on your denomination and how large your church is, as well as any larger organization your church belongs to, they may have access to trained mental health professionals that can help you work through your grief. If you belong to a smaller church, you may get support from your clergy. The nice thing about getting grief support from your church is that they are likely to be based on your religion. That can give you a lot of comfort. 

Hospice Care

If your loved one was getting help from a hospice service, talk to them about grief support. Hospice services aren't just for the person who is dying; they are for the whole family. Many hospice care centers have grief counselors on staff. They can start working with you before your loved one dies. That will let you process all the feelings you are feeling about the upcoming death. Even an expected death can be difficult, and you can feel the beginnings of grief even before they die. You can get one-on-one services, but the hospice center may also have grief support groups that you can join. 

Medical Professionals

You can talk to your primary care physician or a mental health provider about ways to get some support for dealing with your grief. On top of suggesting counseling and support groups, medical professionals can also offer you medical support. Meds may not be something you need on a long-term basis, but during the time when you are dealing with your loved one's death, some anti-depressants or anti-anxiety meds can be really helpful. 

The loss of a loved one can be devasting. There are several stages of grief, and you might not go through them all in order, or you may get stuck in one. Getting some grief support services can be really helpful.